Part 1

Everything is going well at your first venue as you’ve gotten to know each other. Notice everything about her body language. Did she loosen up through the meal and seem more relaxed than when she first showed up? At some point during the conversation drop a casual hint on how you know a great lounge/ dive bar/ salsa joint right around the corner from here you guys should check out. Say this halfway through your meal so you can bring it up again at the end. Dating is a game of inches so when the check comes at she pump fakes (read what pump faking is here) you pay but suggest you go to the spot you mentioned earlier so she can buy you a few rounds and check it out. This provides her with an out. If she wasn’t feeling you or not really trying to let you beat it up that night you’ll get some lame excuse about having to get up early in the morning or feeding her cat or something. I’ve had plenty of girls start the date out telling me how early they have to get up for work during the date then turn around and move to the second venue. This is a great point to mention you only need one venue change on a date but have a second one just in case you walk in and the vibe isn’t right or it’s empty or instead of salsa night it turns out to be 80’s glam rock night. Do not fall under the impression that multiple venue changes on one date increase your chance of banging, it doesn’t and besides we in a recession son. She agrees to the drinks at the second venue to keep the night going. The second half of the date is where you step your game up. Until now you’ve been playing it mysterious and cool, she doesn’t really know if you’re into her or not. Flip the switch. Start flirting a little more, sexual innuendoes and dirty jokes, find a way to break the touch zone and get physical. For me there’s usually a dance floor and grinding involved.

Part 2

It’s 2011 and there are still guys out there who wait till the walk the girl home or to a cab and try then to make a move… PLAYA PLEASE! If you were hoping for sex that night getting a first kiss at the end of the date is the easiest way to insure that will not happen. A nice kiss in a woman’s mind will be the end to a perfect polite date with a beta guy. For guys like us foreplay starts at the second venue. You need to start turning her on and getting her in the mood for sex before you reach her doorstep. It my seem odd but you’ve got to train yourself to make the move at the second venue or third if she wants to jump spots. Boldness is rewarded when it comes to women. Usually I’m on the dance floor when i go for the make out move or if I’m in a dive bar/ lounge situation I bring up the make out or minor hook up session we had when we first met. The point is to get her mind ready and in a place where it’s ok to get physical. Aint that right boo, true. After a well place kiss/ make out session at the second venue put your game on auto pilot. Start and stop the kissing. Switch to flirty banter and regular talk. Tease her about how you know this is the best date she’s ever been on but she has to promise not to stalk you after because you hate when that happens. Again don’t seem so focus on the bang right away. Build the tension to finally neither one of you can take it then look her dead in her face all kidding aside and tell her it’s time to get out of here. Grab a cab and go back to her place, let the beating commence till moral improves.

Part 3

This would be the ideal situation but we all know sometimes it can’t go down like that. Sometimes it may actually be getting a little late and for whatever reason she may have to go. Of course you’ll walk her home, giver her a ride or whatever it takes to make sure she “gets home safe”. During this period of the walk home be sure to hold hands or keep physical contact because you want to keep the momentum going. Once at her place don’t expect an invite to be naturally forthcoming. This is an awkward point where there needs to be a reason for you two to keep hanging out. If she’s not really into you and the mood has worn off she may give you a quick peck on the lips and cast you off chump style. But if she’s hanging around small talk, wondering when you guys will hangout again, asking different lame questions to keep things going find any excuse to get up to her place. Ask for a drink of water, to use the bathroom, to check your email, to see what a capital hill staffers expensive studio looks like. This is the final test, if there was chemistry and she was down to beat from the second venue then keys open doors. Put in a stroke for me!